Single gay man and his mom who gave birth to his surrogate son [Video]

This one is just too weird for me to get my head around. Miles is an adorable baby and his father seems to really love him. Does that make this okay? My gut and sense of morality and ethics say no. It wouldn’t matter to me if this was a girl and I don’t care about the married part or not. What gets me is the mother carrying the son’s baby. It feels incestuous. And the child is sure to be very confused over all this. It will definitely be a ‘non-traditional’ family. I’m sure the family will love the child – who wouldn’t? But, I’m old fashioned that way… it is always best if there are two parents. And I still subscribe to the mom and dad model. That may not be politically correct, but it is how I feel and I consider it the best environment for children.

From The Daily Mail:

Like any besotted grandmother, Anne-Marie Casson can barely conceal her glee as she bounces her eight-month-old grandson Miles on her knee.

As her 27-year-old son Kyle — the baby’s father — fetches drinks from the kitchen of his two- bedroom flat in Doncaster, Anne-Marie is practically clucking over the cute blond-haired toddler.

After a few moments, little Miles grizzles but the 46-year-old healthcare worker barely flinches. Placing him horizontally in her arms, she snuggles him into the warmth of her chest and rocks him to sleep.

Daddy doesn’t get a look-in. But then, if anyone has the right to be a hands-on granny it’s Anne-Marie.

For in a case that has divided opinion across Britain and led to questions about the robustness of our fertility laws, the married mother-of-three is not only Miles’s grandmother, but also the woman who gave birth to him.

On face value, it’s a story to make anyone recoil. But Anne-Marie simply carried the child. Using a donor egg fertilised by Kyle’s sperm, she became the first woman in the UK to be a surrogate for her own son.

The arrangement emerged only last week when a High Court judge ruled that Kyle could now adopt Miles. The paperwork arrived on Saturday, meaning that although Kyle was classed as both the baby’s father and brother when he was born, that is no longer the case. Today he is simply the baby’s father.

Kyle says: ‘I’ve never thought of him as my brother. None of us have. But when he was born, legally he was my brother. Just as legally, he was my mother’s son.

‘That’s no longer the case. My mum and dad’s names are no longer on the birth certificate. I am the only name on the birth certificate, meaning that I am now his legal father as well as his biological father.’ The mother is listed as unknown.

The whole scenario may make many people uncomfortable. Indeed, critics have called it ‘dubious’ and questioned the ethics and morality of the situation. The family no longer speak to one friend who asserted that ‘granny’ would be too interfering if they went ahead.

‘I know that some people won’t understand it and are against what we’ve done but as far as I see, as long as someone can provide for a child then they have every right to a child,’ says Kyle. ‘Apart from that one friend — whom I no longer speak to — everyone else has been really supportive.

‘No one has the right to deny someone that opportunity. We are supposed to live in a world with equal opportunities, but single people are discriminated against. The law says that having a child is too much of an undertaking for a single person to take on. But I’ve proved that wrong.

‘I don’t care what people think — they can keep their opinions. He is cared for. He is loved. I paid for it all myself with a little help from my parents at the end, and that’s all that matters.’

Kyle saved his money, which is responsible and he did look into other options. I suppose having his mom carry the baby was a last ditch attempt to have a child. The whole designer baby choice is just sick though. With so many children out there in need of adoption, it seems to me that would have been a more prudent way to go here. I’m surprised his mom carried to full term successfully with the bleeding, etc. And it must have indeed been strange to have his mom and dad listed as parents and Kyle listed as a brother on the birth certificate. The adoption is complete now and Kyle is the official father. But what a strange and confusing journey for this little one. I am not surprised that people have a problem with this morally – it feels twisted and wrong. But seeing a happy, healthy baby puts some of that at bay. Miles is adorable.

Terresa Monroe-Hamilton

Terresa Monroe-Hamilton is an editor and writer for Right Wing News. She owns and blogs at NoisyRoom.net. She is a Constitutional Conservative and NoisyRoom focuses on political and national issues of interest to the American public. Terresa is the editor at Trevor Loudon's site, New Zeal - trevorloudon.com. She also does research at KeyWiki.org. You can email Terresa here. NoisyRoom can be found on Facebook and on Twitter.

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