Jacqueline Mackie Paisley Passey’s Dating Post Of Doom
Yesterday, as I watched my buddy Mary Katharine Ham’s debut on Hot Air, I heard her mention a name, Jackie Passey, without giving a real explanation of who she is.
Well, after doing a little research, I found out that Ms. Jacqueline Mackie Paisley Passey, a Libertarian, is responsible for one of the most fascinating blog posts of 2006. It’s fascinating because….well, you’ll see. As you read some quotations from this post, you’ll also need to see a pic of Jackie Passey, for reasons that will become obvious. Here’s one of the better ones from her blog:
“Over the past month (since I left Terrence) I’ve received several offers of dates and relationships from various men who read this blog. I’m not looking for a new boyfriend right now but it seems I should clarify what it is I look for in a man when I am, which will hopefully stem the flow of offers from guys who really don’t have it.
I am a very high-quality woman. I know that sounds arrogant, but let’s consider the facts:
* I’m slim (whereas 62% of American women age 20 to 74 are overweight)
* I’m attractive (my new picture has been rated more attractive than 86% of the women on Hot or Not — and the women who upload their pictures are a self-selected sample that is probably already biased towards being more attractive than the general female population)
* I’m relatively young (whereas 82% of American adult women are over 30 years old)
* I’m intelligent (IQ tested at 145 when I was a child, which is 3 standard deviations above the mean — higher than 99.85% of the population. Even if I’ve gotten dumber as I’ve aged I’m probably still at least a 130, which is higher than 97.5% of the population.)
* I’m educated (whereas 77% of American women do not have bachelor’s degrees)
* I have my financial shit together (no debt, perfect credit history, 6+ months living expenses saved, adequate insurance, self employed)
* I have a strong libido and love having sex (my lover *never* has to beg, unless it’s for me to let him get some sleep!)
* Most of my interests tend to be more popular with men than women: science fiction, libertarianism, blogging, politics, economics, guns, gambling, etc.
…The above list explains why I typically receive 50-100 (sometimes more) responses whenever I post personal ads. This is in addition to getting hit on almost every time I go out alone (and all that those men know about me is that they like the way I look, they don’t even know about all the other qualities I have that make me more appealing than most other women).
…I realize that some of you will find this post depressing because you’ll realize that you don’t qualify as a high quality man and thus won’t be able to get a high quality woman. You have a few options:
1. Lower your standards and stop pursuing women who are out of your league. There are lots of fat single mothers out there who can’t find dates either.
2. Look in the developing world. If you’re literate with a home computer and an internet connection you are very wealthy compared to the rest of the world. Citizenship or legal permanent residency in a rich country makes you more attractive to women in poorer countries. Your value on the dating market is thus much higher there.
3. Self-improvement! I used to be a fat unattractive college dropout who couldn’t get her life together. Now I’m thin, attractive, and successfully self-employed after graduating. You can make yourself over into a higher-quality man capable of winning a higher-quality woman too.
…Update: Some people seem to think that this post is a bit harsh and/or arrogant. I’m sorry if I’ve offended you, but I’m also really sick of getting e-mailed several times a week by delusionally hopeful men who read my blog and think because I am *their* dream girl that I’ll therefore want them too. Too often they act crushed when I reject them, which I feel bad about, but if they had stopped to consider whether they had as much to offer me as I have to offer them then they might have had more realistic expectations.
Since becoming single again the amount of time I’ve had to spend on hopeful fanboy/stalker management has been steadily increasing. It’s uncomfortable, a little creepy, somewhat overwhelming, and I want it to stop. I’m hoping this post will serve as a reality check for the guys involved…”
After reading this, I cycled between, “How toweringly arrogant! No woman is hot enough to talk down to people like that,” and “Wow, she’s another Dagny Taggart! She knows who she is, exactly what she wants, and she’s not afraid to coolly break it down for people.”
Of course, from what I’ve seen around the blogosphere, most people’s reactions seemed to cycle between, “How toweringly arrogant!” and then back to, “How toweringly arrogant!”
Now, maybe it’s just from spending so much time around engineers, but I’m not sure she’s as arrogant as she comes across. Some people, particularly very intelligent people, treat life like it’s a big math problem, where A+B=C in their mind and they see no need to sugar coat it for people who don’t see the equation the same way. That’s different than being arrogant, although people with that mentality aren’t necessarily always pleasant to be around.
Either way, I find her blog to be intriguing, and not just because of this post. For example, there’s this:
“The blog party was fun… unfortunately, socializing with my germ-riddled commenters gave me some sort of virus…”
“It took wasting years of my life and tens of thousands of dollars trying to help my “less fortunate” friends and boyfriends before I finally gave up and realized that their situations were the result of consistently making bad choices and not just misfortune. I got sick of being mooched off of and being sucked into their non-stop parade of problems, and bit by bit I’ve cut them out of my life. Having finally learned my lesson, I will never date someone in a lower socioeconomic class again.”
I think I qualify as a member of that, “lower socioeconomic class.” So, should I be offended at that? Maybe, but I’m not. I’m trying to decide if she’s charmingly icy or alternately, ya know, just self-important. Either way, at least she doesn’t come across as boring which is something, at least…