Maureen Dowd: Weiner Proves Men Are Dogs!
“As Schlafly says, no wonder liberal women think men are pigs: Their men are pigs.” — Ann Coulter
In five decades, we’ve moved from the pre-feminist mantra about the sexual peccadilloes of married men – Boys will be boys – to post-feminist resignation: Men are dogs. And there’s no point in feminists wasting their ire at women being objectified because many women these days seem all too ready to play along.
We’ve traded places with France. There, after D.S.K., a spirited feminism has blossomed, an urge to stop covering up seamy incidents of droit du seigneur. Now we’re the world-weary ones, with little energy to try to reform relations between the sexes: Is there any point, really, in trying to fix men?
This scandal resonates less as a feminist horror story than an Internet horror story. Are men, as New York magazine recently suggested, losing interest in having sex with their real partners because they’re so obsessed with porn, sexting and virtual partners? The lazy man’s way to sex, where a billion women are a click away.
After seeing a cascade of famous men marrying up and dating down – Bill Clinton, Newt Gingrich, Dick Morris, John Edwards, Eliot Spitzer, Tiger Woods, David Vitter, John Ensign and Arnold Schwarzenegger – and with Dominique Strauss-Kahn being supported by his prominent, elegant and wealthy journalist wife as he fights charges that he assaulted a 32-year-old hotel maid, maybe feminists have learned that male development stops at power.
This scandal seemed like an insane cat’s cradle, with Spitzer commenting on the bad judgment of Weiner, who was a beach-house buddy of Jon Stewart and who was married by Bill Clinton to Huma, who was a White House intern for Hillary (who ran against the two-timing Edwards) when Monica was an intern for Bill.
Sometimes powerful men are secretly insecure, needing constant reassurance about how important and attractive they are. The waxed bare-chested picture Weiner sent to Meagan could have been captioned: “Geek who buffed up.” As Orwell noted: “Any life when viewed from the inside is simply a series of defeats.”
Often powerful men crave more than love and admiration from The Good Wife. Sometimes they want risk, even danger. Sometimes they’re turned on by a power differential. They adore a fan reaction like the one from Lisa Weiss, the Vegas blackjack dealer, who flirted with Weiner on Facebook: “you are sooo awesome when you yell at those fox news” pundits, and “I bet you have so many chicks after you! you are our liberal stud.”
In her book, Elizabeth Edwards wrote that she would have bet her big house that her husband would not fall for a cheesy line like the one Rielle Hunter tossed at him: “You are so hot.”
But clichés work. As Weiner wrote to Weiss: “What are you wearing?”
Meagan Broussard, a 26-year-old college student and single mom from Texas, wrote on BigGovernment.com, conservative Andrew Breitbart’s site, that her relationship with Weiner began when she wrote on his Facebook page that one of his speeches to construction workers was “hot.”
“Within an hour,” she wrote, “we were sending messages back and forth.”
Human being are not “born good.” To the contrary, we’re born with animal instincts that are controlled through socialization of the sort that liberals disdain. You know, chivalry, honor, morality, family values, Christianity — all of which liberals hold in low esteem. Instead, they promote hedonism, push promiscuity, mock Christianity, excuse politicians who cheat on their spouses, and proudly declare that they can’t be hypocrites because they don’t have moral standards. Then they’re shocked when the values they’ve promoted are actually adopted by people like Bill Clinton, Anthony Weiner, and John Edwards.
Not that conservatives don’t ever fall short. We certainly do. However, we don’t do it nearly as often as liberals because we put a much higher value on doing the right thing in the first place. Sure, there are always going to be hypocrites who try to live up to their principles and fail, but those people are certainly going to get it right a lot more often than the people who don’t have any standards in the first place.
PS: On a side note, ask yourself a question about Bill Clinton, Newt Gingrich, Dick Morris, John Edwards, Eliot Spitzer, Tiger Woods, David Vitter, John Ensign, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and Anthony Weiner — whom did they cheat with? It wasn’t another man, was it? They all cheated with women who knew they were married and didn’t care. Maybe while the feminists are figuring out how to “fix men,” they should try to figure out how to “fix women” who don’t have any qualms whatsoever about sleeping with married men because that seems to be at least half the problem.